Love and trust are the anchors to every healthy relationship. The problem with this is that everyone's definition of love and trust does not come from a healthy place. Not all people are seeking to be whole and delivered. Many are seeking relationships to fill a void, and unfortunately, we end up using and abusing the relationships of innocent people because of our lack of wholeness.
Oftentimes, the result of those in a relationship who are not whole is a one-sided relationship. This type is defined as one person doing all the giving and the other person doing all the receiving. Neither one of these positions in a relationship is healthy. There could also be a lack of wholeness in the person who gives all the time as to say that they may have a need to be needed or may have misplaced their value.
One-sided relationships happen more than we think. Many of us are victims of one-sided relationships. Many of us have also put ourselves in one-sided relationships because we believed the lie that having true friends was hard to come by, so we settled to be needed rather than to be loved.
Every relationship will suffer some type of moment where one person will need the support of the other. This is normal and should be allowed. To not give each other grace in human moments opens unrealistic and unhealthy expectations to be perfect. However, it is never healthy to constantly be pulled on by someone who never intends on giving back. This is not a friendship. This is a one-sided relationship.
Are you involved in a one-sided relationship? Have you allowed yourself to be needed and not loved? Are you struggling with an unhealthy dependence on someone? Healing is necessary individually so that our relationships can be healthy. Love and truth are who God is, not just what He represents. So having a healthy relationship is having God govern us in it. Selah.