Is the apology worth that much?

We all have been there – hurt, abandoned, abused, rejected, betrayed. None of us are exempt from pain. However, it is how we handle the pain that determines the trajectory of our life.

Many of us have been hurt so bad that we’re waiting, literally waiting for an apology from the one who wronged us. But isn’t that dangerous? Or is it prideful? Maybe it’s even arrogant to think that we can add another day to our life. Could it be that wasting days, weeks and even years of our lives just to possibly hear three words is not being a great steward of the life we’ve been given? How is it that we’ve allowed people to have that much power over us, enough power to put our lives on hold while holding up current and new relationships because we’re still hurt?

I know, forgiveness is weak right? Letting go gives the offender too much power. After all, they did the wrong and we didn’t do anything. But may I submit something else to think about? We’ve offended God who gave us life and we’ve also offended ourselves by not giving us a chance to move on, progress and move forward. We’ve locked our identity into the person who committed the wrong, not God. And that’s not fair to Him, nor ourselves.

God has called us to live an abundant life (John 10:10). Abundance here does not mean houses, cars and money. It means peace and a clear conscious. It’s a heart that’s free to love and receive love. It’s a life that’s not so guarded that we have a hard time trusting anyone. It’s a life free from allowing anger, pain and hurt to control our decisions and motivations. Abundance is a heart that’s full of love.
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I’m not trying to sound insensitive, but I am nudging you a bit. Let it go and trust that God will handle the pain you’ve been through. There’s a life you’ve been missing out on. It’s time to live it, free from expecting three words you may not ever get. Christ died for you to live. Receive this gift.