Three words can mean so much. They are powerful. They can change the heart of both the person offended and the offender. These words can let a person know we care. When used correctly, they are words of humility and consideration. When spoken, it shows a desire to reconcile, to bring some sense of closure and some form of resolution.
We know that we will not always agree on everything, so apologizing is necessary for any healthy relationship. If these three words bring so much healing and reconciliation, why aren’t they often used? Aren’t relationships based on truth and love?
Why is it easier to get the other person told rather than apologize for our portion of the wrongdoing? Because it is easier to place blame on others than it is to take responsibility and be accountable. No one likes to admit when they are wrong. It is embarrassing. It is disappointing to us and the other person. We do not have a desire to let others down. And we can struggle with being perfect which applies unnecessary pressure to us. The perfection God requires is not to dot every “I” and cross every “t.” His definition of perfection is to receive and walk in His love.
“I am sorry” is not only significant in the health of great relationships, this statement is key in our relationship with God. To be truly sorry is to repent and change. See, the motivation of this apology is that our hearts are tender to the hurt the other has experienced. When we repent to God, we are saying that we are sorry for hurting His heart and that hurting Him hurts us. This is the same in our earthly relationships if experienced in a healthy way.
I am sure you have had people to hurt you and never apologize for how they treated you, and some will never apologize because of pride and embarrassment. But this does not give you the right to allow your heart to be cold. You were created to receive love, love yourself and love others well. And in the language of love are three beautiful words that bring healing, “I am sorry.” Let us not allow this statement to become a stranger to us, especially as Christians. Selah.