There is a difference between needing someone and wanting them. The problem with how society defines love is that the only way we are okay with people being in our lives is only when they meet our needs. I will get right to the point with this. When we cannot give to others because we are so consumed with our needs makes us a potentially toxic person. We are hard to live with, hard to deal with and hard to be in a relationship with. No one wants to be friends with a leech. No one wants to be married to someone who is so dependent on them that they drain the life out of them.
We cannot genuinely love who we need. Think about it. If love is giving and sacrificial, we cannot sacrifice to give to others if we are always pulling for others to give us what we need. Saying that people are not Christian for not answering our every beckon call shows that our hearts are in the wrong place. Love gives a choice. People have a right to say, “no.”
People cannot be our source of happiness, fulfillment, and peace. Only God can be that for us. And when we allow Him to be that we can love others well. Otherwise, we will continue to jump from one relationship to the other, needing people to fill voids they were never called to fill. No one was ever created to constantly be a lifeline for us.
Needing others comes from a lack of healing within. To need people is to mistreat them. This does not mean that you cannot ask for support in rough patches of life, but you must be mindful of any one-sided relationships where you are doing much of the receiving and they are doing all the giving. This is unhealthy. The health of the relationship is based on the health of us.
So in your prayer time, if you find yourself needing people rather than wanting them in your life, if you find yourself receiving more often than giving, ask God to show you the void in your heart. He desires to heal you so that you are filled and complete in Him alone. Then you will be able to give from a whole place.