Anger is a primary emotion. It is one that all of us feels. The Bible tell us to be angry but sin not (Ephesians 4:26). The problem with uncontrolled anger is that it has the potential to turn us into another person if we allow it. Anger can cause irrational decision-making as well.
The point of this blog is to point out that unresolved trauma can cause anger, and it can cause us to be upset with the wrong person. For those who have experienced abuse of any kind, have you found yourself taking the abuse from the abuser but turn around and be upset with an innocent person who had nothing to do with the situation? Have you ever blamed someone for your own decisions and self-inflicted wounds? Have you taken a bad day out on your spouse or close friend? You are angry at the wrong person.
Having anger is natural but knowing what to do with that anger is spiritual. We need the Holy Spirit to help us release the anger we feel in the right place, His Presence. We need His wisdom on how to resolve and handle conflict. And we also need His grace and boldness to apologize to those we wrongfully accused, blamed, and became distant. They are not the enemy; the devil is the enemy. Take your anger out on him, not those who have nothing to do with the pain that was caused.